Posted by Brian Sorgatz at 5:45 PM
Queen of Spain left this comment at January 12, 2006 7:36 AM
:) I honestly can say its not just for the articles.
Robert Paulson left this comment at January 12, 2006 8:52 AM
Its not really the same, but my wife & I watched the "Girls Next Door" on E! together. [Mainly because the three hefbots featured were not my type.]
On the other hand, about 11 years ago she looked through my July 1994 issue and saw Traci Addell [which was my type] and got really depressed and told me that Traci was just a better version of her. What could I say, Traci was my favorite playmate at the time. That was a tough one to get out of. But two later discoveries downgraded Miss July 1994 in my eyes. 1) Her breasts were augmented [a few older pictures in her cyberclub portfoliio proved this] and 2) She took OJ's call around the time of the murders. Not really her fault, but still that was such a sordid mess that anyone involved with OJ [even tangentally] came out looking bad. Thank God at the time she never saw some of my older issues with Patti Farinelli and Karen Price in them!
Jenn of the Jungle left this comment at January 12, 2006 9:39 AM
Nothing wrong with Playboy..... But I can honestly say I read it for the articles.
Jetting Through Life left this comment at January 15, 2006 9:26 AM
The articles are great!! Pictures are ok too! ;o)
Shell left this comment at February 15, 2006 10:06 AM
Well, I have a problem with it and it's stupid, I know. I just want to get passed it for once. My fiancee is 40 and so am I. I think there's got to be some time to grow out of the T&A mags. He doesn't read the articles at all. Admits to it too. And he's not a a reader at all. He collects Stuff and Maxim too. My thing is that while I still look good, we have great sex and a decent relationship, my insecurities kill me trying to keep up. Looking like that is not easy to Miss Queen of Spain doesn't know what she's talking about. That is really hard work. Airbrush...so what? It's still a perfect body and an idea of what men would prefer we all look like. I had a boob reduction two years ago and Wow, they look great. I have great skin and am fun and energitic. But I'm 40...not 21-28 like most playmates. His daughter is almost 21. Another reason why it offends me. Honestly, is it really that important to him? Because now, every time we are in a setting to where there are younger and hotter women around, I think - he wants them, or wants to see them naked. I think without the magazines in numbers of 3...I wouldn't even think twice because he is affectionate, faithful and complimenting. I also think - why am I wasting my time with a man who "has" to have these magazines. Get over it already. I think it's for men 18-30. Playboy is a decent magazine...but why is it a necessity in a man's live when he has great sex, a good looking woman, etc. Does the quick rush you all get by looking at a hot woman go away? It does with women. I'm sure it does with men too. But I don't have it spread out all over my house to push the issue! I just want to get over this. I too watch the Girls Next Door and they're funny and cute. Their life is a crazy and fun and Hef is a wonderful person. So why does this bother me so much with my guy?
left this comment at February 15, 2006 10:07 AM
Brian Sorgatz left this comment at February 15, 2006 11:29 AM
Shell,
I greatly appreciate your candor. Don’t be too hard on yourself for having conflicting feelings about sexuality. It’s the human condition. I have no credentials for giving relationship advice, but I’ll do it anyway. Maybe you and your man could establish personal rituals to meet each other’s conflicting emotional needs. For instance, you could give him a gentle, playful sock on the shoulder whenever you catch him looking at another woman. To avoid fights, make sure he understands this as a confession of your vulnerability and a perfectly legitimate plea for attention. That’s an idea, for what it’s worth.
If you work hard to look good, it pays off. You’re beautiful in your Blogger avatar.
Queen of Spain left this comment at February 15, 2006 11:53 AM
I agree with the idea that it's a human condition. But this sounds more like a self esteem issue than a playboy issue. I mean, if you trust you trust. If you don't you don't. I, personally, see nothing wrong with looking at beautiful women. It's not like my husband or I will go running off with these women. We're simply enjoying them. You can't compare them to yourself. That's where the trouble starts. Your man picked you. Either you accept that he picked you, or you don't.
I don't think he looks at those magazines because he would rather look at them than you. He just looks to enjoy. Much like any of us enjoy looking at a nice sunset.
You have to NOT make it personal. Because its not personal. It's appreciating beauty. It's appreciating sexuality. It's not some sort of test of trust. It's just porn.
Shell left this comment at February 15, 2006 3:58 PM
Thanks Brian and Ms. Spain for your comments. I truly appreciate your feedback. I sersiouly need to think about this. I'm the one who needs to be more confident. And I need to enjoy the magazine as I do Girls Next Door or E's Top 100 Celeb Bodies for the entertainment of it. Men call Playboy entertainment...that's what it is and I should enjoy it for what it stands for. It's not smut and it is tasteful. So is this to say, men do not compare and wish? I wish I was 21 or 28 and young again. I loved my looks at that age, but looks don't last forever. Confidence and integrity...that's it.
Funny thing is that I'm a Graphic Designer and I choose photos every day. I always choose attractive people.
Comments appreciated.
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